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Dealing With Boundaries As A Highly Sensitive Christian Women

March 24, 20244 min read

Boundaries. It's a word that often carries a heavy weight, especially when you're in the midst of toxic relationships. It's a word that can evoke fear, resistance, and even resentment. I remember the reluctance I felt whenever I heard it, knowing that asserting my boundaries would likely lead to conflict, manipulation, and emotional turmoil. But what I didn't realize then was that boundaries were not just about protecting myself; they were essential for my healing journey and my relationship with God.

In toxic relationships, setting boundaries can feel like an uphill battle. There's the fear of retaliation—yelling, name-calling, or the dreaded silent treatment. And even if we muster the courage to set a boundary, it's often met with resistance, gaslighting, or manipulation until we're worn down and relent. It becomes easier to sacrifice our own well-being than to stand firm in our boundaries, and over time, this erosion takes a toll on our self-esteem and our connection with God.

I recall the days when I neglected myself, when every moment was spent trying to keep everyone else happy while my own needs went unaddressed. My heart felt shattered, and I wondered if healing was even possible. But amidst the despair, a glimmer of hope emerged: the realization that I couldn't navigate this journey alone.

The turning point came when I sought help. It wasn't an easy decision, but it was a necessary one. I discovered that support was the missing piece of the puzzle—the key to understanding healthy behavior versus toxic patterns, to recognizing when and how to set boundaries, and to navigating the aftermath of asserting those boundaries.

As Christian women, our faith plays a pivotal role in our journey toward healing and wholeness. We are reminded that we are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), cherished and loved by a God who desires our well-being. But too often, we allow toxic relationships to distort our understanding of God's love, convincing ourselves that sacrifice and suffering are synonymous with righteousness.

Yet, the truth is far from it. Jesus himself modeled boundaries during his earthly ministry. He withdrew to desolate places to pray (Luke 5:16), he confronted religious leaders who exploited the vulnerable (Matthew 23), and he prioritized rest and self-care (Mark 6:31). Jesus understood the importance of setting boundaries to protect his physical, emotional, and spiritual health—and as his followers, we are called to do the same.

But setting boundaries doesn't mean we're abandoning our faith or forsaking our relationships. Rather, it's an act of stewardship—a recognition that we are called to honor the temple of the Holy Spirit within us (1 Corinthians 6:19). It's about creating space for healing, growth, and ultimately, deeper connection with God and others.

So how do we begin this journey of healing and boundaries?

First and foremost, we must acknowledge that we are not alone. God walks alongside us, offering comfort, strength, and wisdom. We can turn to Him in prayer, seeking guidance and discernment as we navigate the complexities of relationships and boundaries.

Secondly, we must surround ourselves with a supportive community—a network of friends, family, or counselors who can offer encouragement, accountability, and practical advice. Whether it's joining a small group at church, seeking therapy, or confiding in a trusted friend, having a support system is crucial for our growth and well-being.

Next, we must educate ourselves about healthy boundaries and toxic dynamics. This may involve reading books, attending workshops, or seeking professional guidance. By understanding the principles of boundaries and learning to recognize red flags in relationships, we empower ourselves to make informed decisions and protect our hearts and minds.

But perhaps most importantly, we must cultivate self-compassion and grace. Healing is not a linear journey, and there will be setbacks along the way. We may stumble, falter, or feel overwhelmed at times—but in those moments, we can rest in the assurance of God's unfailing love. He meets us in our brokenness, offering redemption, restoration, and the promise of a brighter future.

As we embark on this journey of healing and boundaries, let us remember that it is not a destination but a process—a daily surrender to God's transformative work in our lives. May we find courage to set boundaries, strength to uphold them, and grace to extend to ourselves and others along the way. And may we discover, in the midst of our brokenness, the beauty of God's healing touch and the freedom that comes from walking in His truth.

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Elle Angel

Hi! 👋 My name is Elle Angel. I am a Trauma-Informed Life Coach that helps Christian women release emotional trauma through faith-based coaching practises so they can finally begin to feel safe, build a trusted relationship with God, and experience emotional freedom.

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